Make special arrangements for the education and training of children

 🌼 *Memorization of Quran* 🌼

Many people have the desire to memorize their children, but when this desire is implemented, many challenges have to be faced. Since the strong desire of the parents is not yet included in the child's desire and planning, often the child shows stubbornness, rebellious behavior and disgust. Even if some children show passion and love, the age in which most children start is the decision and dream of their parents, which becomes necessary for them to fulfill. During this stage of memorization, there are different phases which can be estimated by those who have done or are doing it. 

The first thing is that there is no age set for memorizing the Qur'an or completing the Qur'an. There will be a question from us in the hereafter regarding putting it on the right path for us in the life of this worldwill cause to keep*. 

If the Qur'an is recited once in complete memory or after the completion of memorization, if it is merely considered as a duty, a blessing or a reason for pride, it is attached to the names of Hafiz and Hafiza, but the right of the Qur'an is not fulfilled. This is our inability. The third thing is to preserve the Holy Qur'an in the heart and mindBut not obligatory. The fourth thing can be decided only on the ability of the child. 

💠 1. The first important task before moving forward in this direction is the discussion between the parents, coordination, and agreement on facing the difficulties resulting from this responsibility together. If it is the wish of the father, then you have to set the routine of the house according to the desire of the mother, and if it is the wish of the mother, then the father should facilitate other responsibilities and help the housewife with regard to the house. One or both parents will have to share the responsibilities of picking up the child, keeping in touch with his teachers or school, and helping him with homework at home. 

💠 2. Choosing a good seminary or teacher by taking care of the second task. Either don't send them to institutions or teachers about which you don't get good reviews, or make sure you are satisfied. Beating is not a condition for memorization and discipline. 

💠 3. The third thing to do with the child, if he is at a young age, is to tell him and celebrate with him that he is starting to do such a beautiful thing. And if there is an older child, finding out his will, telling him the benefits and encouraging him instead of forcing this decision on him. 

💠 4. If there is a young child i.e. primary school age up to class 5, the best age is to remove him from school and arrange tuition at home with a good teacher who can teach mathematics, English and science so that They should not be left behind in terms of school education. Otherwise, there are such madrassas and institutes as well as school education. 

💠 5. It is not appropriate for an older child who is in his teenage years to miss school altogether, but it may be that they must go to school but they should not have a heavy burden of studying between the years of memorization. However, parents can decide this only after discussing with the child. We have started this experiment in fourteen years. My intention to start at this age was that he would understand and remember but with school it is progressing at a slow pace. We did not put pressure on both the teacher and the child to finish in this age. 

During memorization, children get tired, get tired, forget, and although there is no proof of this, but whispers from Satan seduce children. Children who go to madrassas get bored with the strict routine there and if they never meet good friends, they also learn bad manners. Since the parents are in this mood that if somehow memorized, they scold the child repeatedly without understanding the feelings and emotions, then the children become stubborn and do actions that insult the parents. 

*Child Routine*:

All members of the family have to sacrifice to save the child. If the whole family puts the child in a laborious routine of memorization and wakes up late at night, there are occasional parties, there is shouting and dirt all the time in the house, then it is difficult for the child to focus and he will remain distracted. Keep a clean and quiet place for the child to sleep so that he can get enough sleep. While memorizing his lessons, avoid noise and any kind of distraction at that place. Sleep on time at night and nap for some time during the day if possible. 

*Baby Food*:

The idea of the child's food and drink, especially such foods that can increase his mental health and focus. 

Milk + eggs

Dry fruits

Vegetables Fruits

A nutritionist can be consulted about this. 

*Exercise*:

During memorization, they do the same thing very hard and often have to sit for long hours and repeat it, which makes them mentally and physically tired, so any physical exercise is good for them like swimming, running, jogging, Hiking or other sports

*Mental Health*:

The constant pressure and the thought of living up to expectations can make them anxious, so have some fun outdoor activities for them. It is useful to talk to them lovingly, listen to them and make them practice mindfulness for some time. 

*Emotional Health*:

The children's anger increases during this time, so it is good if the rest of the children see themselves in the child's place of getting angry and yelling at him. He can be jealous of other people's leisure, he can get angry with his teacher or parents, he can burst out suddenly without understanding many emotions, so people around him need to be emotionally intelligent to support him. . 

*challenge cry* :

There are phases in which the child declares to quit memorizing, spends time instead of memorizing, complains to the teacher, but in all these the child's patience is exhausted, you should not be. 

*Patience-Patience-Waiting*

Remember these three words will be useful in this journey. 

The extremes of love, lovingly and tenderly sitting next to him and explaining, caressing his shoulders, taking him out for a walk, not cursing him and praying for him by reciting the Nafl and especially reciting the Mu'awiztin and giving him every breath and teaching him. 

This phase may come at the very beginning, in the middle, or at the very end

Just don't panic. But if at the very beginning the child is completely confused and does not agree at all, then review the decision or give some time interval. 

It is the stage of completion of memorization. Beautiful occasion. We think that our son or daughter will take us by the hand and take us to heaven thanks to his meekness, but for this it is important that we do not consider this as the destination. Now the main task is to maintain it and make the child focus on understanding the Quran. The responsibility of children never ends for parents, but giving the child a sense of responsibility and instilling the love of the Qur'an and religion in him before he becomes an adult is very important because everyone will be responsible for his actions. *

This article was written after seeing the children of many close relatives, but everyone's experience is different. Therefore, one may disagree. 

Apart from this, while writing, boys may have a different experience than girls. 

If you find this article useful, then remember our children in your prayers that Allah Ta'ala will make them those who take the Qur'an to heart, understand and explain it. Amen